Love – Who cares about Age Difference?
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Love is such a beautiful thing. If you find True Love and manage to hold on to it, then count yourself not just lucky, but truly blessed. Some people have preferences in the person they would like to be in a relationship with. Maybe some one tall, or someone who is good looking or someone who is just a few years older (close to their age). This Hub concentrates on the Age aspect – Couples who have a wide age gap between them, but are very much in love and still married. Age should not be a barrier to love.
Michael Douglas and Catherine Zeta-Jones
Facts
Michael Douglas: Age 65 (Sept 1944)
Catherine Zeta-Jones: Age 40: (Sept 1969)
Age Difference: 25 Years
The couple married in 2000. Michael is an American Actor and Catherine is a Welsh Actress. When they met, Michael used the line “I want to father you children”. I'm sure Michael must have had better "romantic" lines under his sleeves, but that one worked for Catherine. They have 2 kids together. Wishing them continued happiness in their marriage.
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Rene Angelil and Celine Dion
Facts
Rene Angelil: Age 68 (Jan 1942)
Celine Dion: Age 42 (Mar 1968)
Age Difference: 26 Years
The couple married in 1994. Rene is Celine’s Manager and Celine a Canadian singer. She recorded “it was only a dream” with the help of her mum and brother and the song was sent to him. He called the family to set up a meeting with Celine. They met – she was only 12, he was 38 and as we all know, he became her Manager and made her a big star. Obviously he played an important part in her career and must have been like a caring father. Naturally, she would have grown to love him. They have one son together.
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"You truly love someone when you can feel every joy, sadness and pain of the other as if they were your own".
Nelson Mandela and Graca Machel
Facts
Nelson Mandela: Age 91 (Jul 1918)
Graca Machel: Age 64 (Oct 1945)
Age Difference: 27 Years
The couple married in 1998. Nelson Mandela, former president of South Africa and Graca a Lawyer and International Campaigner for children’s rights. The happy couple met in 1990, shortly after Mandela was released from prison. Mandela insisted that she be treated as the first lady of South Africa during foreign state visits. They have no children together. I’m so glad for Uncle N, that he has someone who truly loves him by his side at this time of his life, especially after all he’s been through.
Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore
Ashton Kutcher: Age 32 (Feb 1978)
Demi Moore: Age 47 (Nov 1962)
Age difference: 15 yrs
The couple married in 2005. Ashton is an American Actor and Demi an American Actress. They met in a party in 2003, but Ashton didn’t show any interest. However, two weeks later, they were at another party and things took off from there. They have no kids together, but I have my fingers crossed for them. It would be nice to see a “little Ashton” as Demi has 3 daughters with Bruce Willis.
Update: Dec 2011 - Sadly, this couple have broken up after a lady confessed to sleeping with Ashton on the night of their anniversary. It was hard for Demi to swallow but at least they will always share some good memories.
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Couple No 5?
Couple no 5? Well, I started on Nicole Ann Smith and J Howard Marshall II. They married with an age difference of 63 years between them but it only lasted 14 months, so I decided not to include it. Besides, I had a feeling some readers might not agree, as the marriage was controversial.
So, in the comments box, feel free to write the name of the couple you would have included as no 5. It doesn’t have to be a famous couple but, they must be married and have an age difference of about 10 years. I am curious to know who you would mention.
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Nice hub. I liked it.
Well, Lady_E, I'd have to name myself and my hubby! Anthony is 13 years my junior and we married in 1988. It's been a lovely ride! I think you commented on my hub "An Unlikely Romance."
Thanks for the hub, it's always comforting to know others have gone through the various problems that accompany this age difference and have blissfully survived!
All the first three cases have something in common-male partners much older than their counter parts,but Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore case is just the opposite, Aston is much younger than Demi-this is going to be interesting relationship,keep updating. Thank you for the lovely quotes :)
People fall in love. We are interested if we know the people or if the people are celebraties. The fact is we are not in the heads or the hearts of other people. I don't believe that we have a right to tell a person who they should love, age or gender, no more than we have a right to tell them what clothes they should wear.
Thank you for this hub. Very interesting.
I believe love is that other person is precious and valuable as is precious to God.
Love is color-blind and age-blind.
Before my Carol moved to heaven we had also age difference but extraordinary marriage. It was God job and glory to Him.
If it suits them, well who is to critisize. Thank you for raising an interesting point.
terrific great love hub work thanks
** Lol Samboiam - now that really made me laugh. Glad you enjoyed the Hub. Thanks.
** Thanks HP Roy. Nice to read from you again. Best Wishes.
** Hi Lorlie, that's beautiful and I wish you many more happy years ahead. Regards.
** Hello Andromida, it must be interesting and I am very happy for Demi. They make a lovely couple. I also admire the maturity of Ashton. Thanks for your kind comments.
** Hello Pete - I liked your comment: "The fact is we are not in the heads or the hearts of other people." - so true. Thanks for stopping.
** Hi Vladimir - thanks for sharing your comments. I want to believe Carol is still watching over you with lots of love. Hold on to that Treasure of Happy memories together. Warmest wishes.
** That's true Hello Hello, everyone has their own path in life. Sometimes, people think it's wrong but it turns out blissful. P/s get the sun to come out in London tomorrow. (sunday). lol. We all want a nice Bank Holiday weekend.
** Thanks, the voice - so nice of you to stop by. Regards.
My Dad is ten years older than my Mom and they have been married for over sixty years, so my vote for a fifth couple goes to them.
I have been in relationships several times that crossed age barriers--when I was 20 I was with a woman who was 32. I was also in a relationship with a woman who was 16 years younger. I have been most happy with a lady close to my own age, but I am well aware of the ability love has to cross the boundaries of age.
Thanks for a very interesting and unique look at love.
Mike
Lady_E
Very ineteresting hub. The age thing is always controversial. I have seen the vast age difference often and have seem some happy couples.
CS
Enjoyed the hub - I am quite a few years older than my wife and this reminds me how blessed I am thank you Lady E
Marriage is about love, but it's also about companionship. Is having an older or younger friend controversial? With the skyrocketing rate of divorce nowadays, a successful loving relationship is the main thing. Lady E, you have a knack for always bringing up interesting subjects for discussion. All the best! :)
A big difference in age doesn't really matter unless my daughter decides to marry a 70 year old; then I might have a problem with it. Or then again maybe not, I don't think as onlookers we really know how we will react until actually faced with it. But as far as the partnership goes it really isn't anyone else's business.
Oh I forgot the age gap couple in spot number 5, what about Bruce and Wilnelia Forsyth. 32 years difference and she was a former Miss World
** Hi Mike, your parents have something truly special - Definitely Couple NO 5 for the Hub. I note from your comments you are very open-minded which is nice. Thanks for sharing your experience and I hope you follow in your parents footsteps and find long, lasting happiness in Love.
** Hello Coffeesnob - Thanks for sharing your comments. Have a wonderful week ahead.
** Cheers Billy - you missed out a bit on your comment.. on how blessed she is too. lol. Thanks for stopping.
** Thanks Jai - I like what you wrote: "a successful loving relationship is the main thing". That is a perfect phrase. Thanks for your comments. Best Wishes.
** That's true Brian - Until we are faced with the situation we will never know. Thanks so much for stopping.
Wow Brian. I read your latest comment. "Nice to see it, to see it Nice." lol. How could I forget our Bruce. There is such a big age difference between him and his wife. Also, they are still happily married. That's a definite No 5.
Cheers. :)
Its a most wonderful hub!! Its all a mind game and if you can feel spontaineous, age is nothing before that!! I have always met women who are older to me and have never been uncomfortable .. infact the age factor does not come to mind at all if you feel really happy!!
Its a good hub to remind us of the practical eventualities!! Visit Amitabh hub once more as magnoliazz asked you for an opinion!! :)
Glad to see you included the older woman younger man combo. I've always found stylish women older than me to be most attractive.
I married one, though she's only 3 years older. That hardly counts as cradle robbing.
Greta hub. My partner is seven years older than I am. It causes some problems but we still feel just as strongly for each other. And I know of lots of men who fantasise about older, more mature women!
I am falling in love with a man 19 years older than me, he lives in another country, 3 hours a plane ride and we come from different cultures. Everybody tells me I look ten years younger than I am and I always liked it,until now... Isn't that weird? or is it love... I am 36, he is 55 and it feels amazing! I am a little bit scared about the age difference because it is something new to me,it just came and I did not even think about it until now. Any thoughts... somebody?
well done.....a good share
** Hello Dreamreachout, I like what you wrote about age not coming to mind if you are happy. As for the other comment, I think any woman who can't get on with you has problems. lol. You have such positive vibes. I will visit the Hub. Regards.:)
** Lol Smilesdoc - no that doesn't count as cradle robbing. Wishing you both lots of happiness. Nice to read from you.
** Rickrideshorses - Aaaaw. Well, I'm glad you're both still very much in love, that's what counts. Best Wishes.
** Hi Maria, I can't give advice but if I were in your shoes, I'd just take one day at a time. This way there is no pressure on you and things could fall into place naturally and you wouldn't see the age gap. Also, you'd happily embrace his culture, when your mind is settled - (vice versa on his side too). Good Luck. :)
** Cheers love of night. (Waving at yah!)
Lol .. you may trump up my vibes but I always scratch my head to reply to your comments .. Ha ha ha!!
Jay Z and Beyonce --- just 12 years difference
** Cheers Dreamreachout. :)
** Thanks clspeakstoo - I thought of them but they are still Newly weds. I really wish them well though. They make a nice couple. Nice to read from you. :)
I vote for Mike's parents as couple number 5. I don't think age should matter, but I do feel maturity levels do.
Interesting hub Lady_E; Luther Vandross said it well, "It's so good lovin' somebody, and somebody loves you back."
To have that in the world we live in is the best thing. It's sad to be in love with someone and you find out (especially years later), that their love is not returned to you. So, blessings to all of the happy couples you wrote about and to the hubbers who responded with 'age differences'.
PS: Love your mushy quotes, except for the third one, it's highly questionable in my opinion.
** Thanks Happyher, for couple no 5 - I have heard several times that if one's parents stayed together in marriage happily, the child normally follows in their footsteps. Wishing you and Mike lasting happiness. Regards. :)
** Hi SupportMed, Quote 3 can be hard, but I think it's only natural some people will dig out all the photo albums of holidays, surprise party videos and gifts they were given and think of the good times, which will make them smile a bit before crying their eyes out again. lol.
Best Wishes. :)
Hi,i was a bit depressed today but i knew that my spirit will be uplifted one way or the other,was not wrong but right because ,you got me going though it wasn't flowing like a poem or a story line but i had to Google search most of the pairs you listed above. Couple no#5 Nicole and hubby were not meant to be.
I am a good advocate of love and have really preached about true love,the kind of love which turns you off and on then leave you wondering where he/she might be when u r alone,that is the kind Madela shares with his bride uptil this writing...
Great hub sis,plz can i share this hub in my little world with my folks?
One love.
Hi Rossimobis
I hope you are feeling better now. Thanks for the comments and please feel free to share any of my Hubs, poems with anyone. There's no need for you to even ask. Haba! lol.
I also hope you have some motivating books to read or listen to inspiring music - this will lift your spirit. Music is very powerful. Best Wishes. :)
Yes, Love can be blind. And when there is love who cares about age difference though many women married to older men are some times called as 'Golddiggers'. There are several more couples with age difference like Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes, Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie....
Cheers Anamika, Oh I wish I had included Tom and Katie. Thanks so much for stopping. Regards. :)
That was very interesting and so true. Michael Doug's marriage caught my attention a few yrs ago and it came as a little surprise to me. Well, I happen to be his ardent fan since the day I saw his 'American President'. He was a perfect choice for that role. Thx for sharing.
Just having someone in your life that loves you is what matters. Whether they are dramatically older or younger should not make a difference. Sadly, society always has to put their nose into it, so it takes true love to stand up to all the critics. I applaud all those couples that survive and have a very happy relationship. In the end, that is all that counts.
** Cheers Anjali, I remember that film too - it suited him. Thanks for your comments. It's lovely to read from you.
** Totally agree with you Susan. Sadly, sometimes relationships break because of those that interfere. As you noted: its a happy relationship that counts. Regards.
I agree 100%! I always dated older men and enjoyed the relationship for many reasons. However, in my experience I found men to be more concerned about the age difference then the women. I use to have a problem with the older woman, younger man theme until I laid eyes on Brad Pitt. He changed my mind immediately! :o)
Lol Nancy's Niche. Brad is lovely - I just wish he wasn't "taken" from Jennifer. Thanks for sharing your experience. Nice. :)
I have two dear married friends who are 30 years apart in age, and very happy.
Good to know 2patricias
Thanks for stopping. :)
That's good because I am 94 years old and she was born in the 80's!!!
Good to know, Epigramman. :)
Thanks for stopping.
I really enjoyed reading this Elena, as I knew about all of the relationships here that you made mention of with the exception of Nelson Mandela's, but not the all of the details. I think that I can empathize with some of these relationships :D I hope you're well.
Dohn
Thanks Dohn, for your comments. I'm glad Nelson Mandela isn't living a lonely life in his old age.
Hope all is well with you too.
Regards. :)
hey lady_E ,you cleared my big dilemma..thanks for that...
Good to know, Pisean.
Thanks and Best Wishes. :)
Hello Lady-some may take it seriously. Love is like that,but sounds good.Thanks.
Hello Suny - Thanks so much for stopping. Love is indeed like that. Best Wishes. :)
Lady E-Another great Hub dear...... Some wise man rightly said that love is blind..... when you are in love you don't see any differences.....you know only one thing that that person is the one who you were searching for all your life......
Hi Mahesh
Lovely comments. I like the way you put it.
Shuku ria. :)
Apologies in advance if this post is on the longer side. :) But I hope this is okay to get this off my chest here.
A few months ago, I met an older woman on an online chat program. I'll be turning 24 in October, while she just turned 52 in May. From the beginning we'd hit it off great. So much so that we've exchanged photos to put a face to the name and have each other's phone number--and had practically been inseparable on there since. Nearly from the beginning, we'd had an understanding that neither of us cared about our age difference or what people thought about us when they saw us flirting in chat rooms--namely that they thought that we were in a relationship or dating, though technically we weren't.
However recently, for me, it changed and although I knew we agreed it was nothing more than fun and flirting...I fell in love with her, in spite of everything I knew about her past--a few failed marriages (one in which lasted 10 years and was highly abusive on all counts) and engagements.
Because of this, she has closed her heart off to serious relationships and ends up pushing people away when they get too close, like she did with me not too long ago. We have both said we loved each other, but while I meant it romantically, she said she meant it more in a friendly way when I talked with her after she'd been distancing herself from me the last few days.
I'm hesitant to try and pursue this any further since she just wants to be friends, while I still love her. I don't know if it could be anything long term, but I know how I feel. I know she doesn't want to be hurt again, which is why I think she said she doesn't love me the same way (and now all of a sudden let someone's comment about her being old enough to be my mother influence her when she said she doesn't care what people think about us), but I think we could have something really special if she allowed herself to love and be loved.
I've said I could just be her friend like how we've always been and move past these feelings I have for her, but I'm having second thoughts. How do I know for sure she isn't just saying she only loves me as a friend as a means of protecting herself?
Hmmmh Autumn Love - It's obvious you have a special bond between you. There are some lovely people in life who never have special bonds of friendships/relationships. Also, I know you are in your 20s now, but you are maturing every day. In 10 years time, your relationship could be stronger and no one would say she was old enough to be your mum then.
Maybe give it time - don't leave each other if you are getting on well and see where the journey of love takes you. Life is funny, she could wake up one day and suddenly realise the depth of her feelings for you. Might even knock the socks of you and propose to you. lol.
I really wish you well.
Regards, E.
I realize I'm young and completely inexperienced when it comes to love and intimate relationships. I guess I'm holding out hope that like you said, she might reciprocate my feelings one day if she can find it within herself to let down her walls and not let her past rule the rest of her life. I'm trying not to let it get to me, but she's acting completely opposite of what she said her beliefs were when we first met and got close. I'm not judging her in any way--I've had my own demons to battle in the past. I just wish she could see that she doesn't guard her emotions with me. I know I've hurt her by not telling her sooner that I fell for her, or that her pulling away hurt me as well.
It also hasn't been easy since she said we should cease the displays of affection, yet she's still more open with others and acting like nothing happened between us--particularly in this other chat room she introduced me to where a lot of the other members are actually older than she is, and most don't know she's bisexual and often times ends up in younger crowds because of her usual disposition where she doesn't always "act her age."
I've talked with my mother too, I know it's not the homosexuality that bothers her, but she's concerned about the age gap as well as my nonexistent track record with dating or relationships.
One day at a time Autumn Love...
Very Best Wishes. :)
Thanks, E. :)
i like a guy 5years younger than me and neither parents agree on our relationship. what do you suggest i should do thank you.
Hi Sabrina
I can't really give you any advice. If you both have a strong love bond - then I'm sure your love will stand the test of time and all family members will have a change of opinion.
Good luck.
Dear Lady_E
I was googling marriages and relationships with"age gap"as the call it...when I got myself her.I went thru the whole hub...I think it's awesome.Age is just a number...as long as the two partners can compromise,this will push the relationship forwards.I happen to be with a guy 18 years old older than myself...it never worried me,except regarding what if he just goes after younger girls?that's why I buried my infatuation inside...till I got to know him better.He's such a kind heart...who happened to always be running into abusive people.and to my amusement we share many things together...music,movies,opinions...even when conflicting..it goes peacefully...look,all I know is that by just having a 10 minutes conversation with him(this is how it started off)this made my day.we understand eachother so much...we are both ambitious..we are supposed to get married next year.Pray for us.Whatever happens...this man changed my life...helped me get out the best of me,and for a reason I want to takecare of him for the rest of my life,have babies with him..I love you G :-) AGAIN THUMBS UP FOR THE HUB
Hi Susu
I'm glad for you - that you have met someone you click with on all levels. A beautiful soul mate.
I hope the wedding goes well but most of all wish you a happy, fruitful and lasting marriage.
Best Wishes,
Elena
Nice to read... although sadly I am in a position of over a 25 year age gap and the man will probably never look at me that way, we are best friends and I am head-over-heels in love with him. Past infatuated and moved on to unconditional love, actually... I've known him 2 years and ever time I get to talk to him my day is so much better!
SuSu's story sounds almost exactly like mine, except for it's all one sided right now :-( Sometimes I get hope and I will keep waiting, but at least if we only have each other's friendship I will be happy. Thanks for this hub - it was nice to read and gives me hope that I'm not the only one out there who thinks that love is blind to age!!
Hi Jessica
Thanks for your comments. Maybe he feels the same way too....
I wish you happiness. Follow your Heart.
Regards, ELena.
Lady E what a nice hub. In a time where people marry for the wrong reasons its refreshing to see a arcticle such as this! Thanks for sharing.
Thanks Ladyt11 - Glad you enjoyed it. :)
That's right. Age shouldn't be a factor, when two people are in love, age is not a hindrance to be together. Great formed hub as always.:)
True comments Hubpages Writer - I wish everyone would share those views. Regards.
Mmmh Mysterious - Interesting. Sometimes I feel young teens have been through hard times in life and fall in love with someone who is a "Father Figure". I wish them well. Thanks for sharing.
Well, age difference does not matter. I am happily married to a man who is 22 years older than me! :-)
Thats so sweet sapphirelaws, I wish you both continued Happiness - a blissful marriage. Thanks for stopping. :)
Dearest Lady_E
I have written to you 3 -4 months earlier about the love of my life(or so it appeared to me).Well,I think the dream is coming to an end.It's not Ok but I'll be fine!I wanted to STRESS that it wasn't the age.On the contrary,the age was wonderful,provided ofcourse that we understood eachother pretty well.and yes at points he loved me and it was beautiful.Sometimes we were friends,sometimes he pampered me like a spoiled girl:)sometimes I'd pamper him like my kid...sometimes I look up to him like a wow a mature man,my hero I can count own...it was beautiful.He was waiting to take the next step in the relationship when he's financially secures when I'm telling you I don't give a damn.I make good money myself and I was willing to work and help him out.I guess the problem was he was never emotionally ready,and he will never be...sad,I know!Maybe he enjoyed my company..like the company of many other ex girl friends I found out he still contacts.Maybe this satisfied his ego.He knew we had something special but that was that.He just played me I guess...and his loss!I don't think I'll ever hate him.I never felt connected to someone that much.and the funny thing is..he always worried about the age difference!on my end,I was praying to god if we ever got married,I would be the one who dies first.See E...I made hi the axis of my universe.I really loved him and I know what I felt was true,so I don't regret it.It hurts like hell,I'm having nonstop migraines now..nothing makes sense;can't find anything interesting or take joy in anything..but the mockery couldn't last longer.I can't keep lying to myself that he wants me as much as I do.and I'm telling you,if he ever felt how I feel for him,he wouldn't have left me for the world.I'm sure his sweet words will find away with another girl.Anyways,wanted to share this with everyone and to confirm that no rules regarding relationships.Any relation can work out(not) and all that matters is that 2 people want like REALLY want to be with each other,simple as that..
Hello Susu
I'm so sorry to hear this but you never know - he might change. I went back to read the comments you left me a few months ago and you described him as kind... someone who brought out the best in you. Not all men can do that.
Maybe he needs to have his mind-set changed about being financially secure. Some men don't like depending on their ladies. They want to me the "Man" of the house. Christmas is approaching - maybe you could both use the opportuniy to go somewhere nice together, like a short romantic break.
I'm wishing you well because I feel you must have invested a lot in this relationship.
Warmest Wishes
Elena xx
im starting to like a guy older too im 14 hes like 18 who cares about age diffrence is the love that counts
Thanks Sharon
One step at a time..... take care. xx
Im 14 but i like this 20 year old, i understand age difference is a lot different when youre as young as me but ive been thinking about how it wouldnt be a big deal if i was 18 and he was 24 ya kno. I guess ill have to wait but he liked me but now hes lookin at the age difference but he says he still really likes me...well see how this turns out i guess. Cant wait till im 18!
Thanks for stopping Ameera - Wishing you good luck with your love life. Don't rush into anything. :)
Hi Lady_E,
I've been exploring every resource I have in regard to advice on my current relationship. Reading your hub really has given me some hope and I'm hoping you can help me out where others have simply laughed or dismissed my problems.
I've recently entered a relationship with a 25yr old girl. I'm 19 years old. She really is the most amazing girl I've ever met in my life. I can'y get my head around that there is actually a girl out there who ticks all the boxes. She's beautiful and means so much to me. Everyday I feel myself caring more and more for her. My problem is that she thinks I'm 21. This is because when we first met she wouldn;t agree to go out with someone younger than her, and after much convicing (and that little lie) I got her out for a drink and the rest is history. Now I know she cares about me, she told me the other night she sees herself falling for me. But I need to tell her the truth about my age, explain to her I lied because i needed her to give me a chance, and that staying with me would make both of us happy.
I relaise my predicament is my own fault, and it tears me up inside. The confrontation is going to kill me. Can you give me any advice,
Many Thanks,
Markus
Hi Markus
It's important you tell her but it's just getting the timing right. If I were in your shoes, Once I am sure she loves me, I would find a very good moment and tell her - also explain the reasons why you did it.
She might get upset, but after a while her heart will comprehend it and come back to you. (if she really loves you).
Wishing you both well.
Elena
Oh my - here I have been pushing away ladies 20 years younger than me..... True!
Thanks the hub - I will endeavor to let my walls down should another find me.
Big Hug
I am a 25 yrs old italian guy and I love a 41 yrs old norwegian woman. I still live in Italy and she lives in Norway. She loves me, she thinks and says me I am perfect but now she decided to come back with her ex, she would love to be with me, but for age difference she thinks I would make her feel old and she doesn't want that... I love her more than myself, more than everything I have, more than my life, I have never found a woman like her and now I don't know what to do.. I have been knowing her for 9 months, I went to her one week in December and.. it was wonderful. And now I can't cancel her from my heart since she is my heart. I think when there is True Love age doesn't count.. I will always love her.. I don't know what to do..
Many thanks in advance from my heart,
Davide
Thanks Davide - I wish you happiness in your love life. Never hide your feelings or else it might be too late.
She's probably thinking the same as you. :)
Nice Hubpage!
Age is mind over matter,if you don't mind,it doesn't matter.
If you're happy,it doesn't matter.
Great hub!
Totally agree with you, Perfectjumpoff.
Thanks for stopping.
I frankly care.. and maybe it's not RIGHT. But consider that is Michael Douglas.. would she have married him if she wasn't?
** Debugs - Who knows? Money & Power attracts but given they have stayed together for so long, I think there is True Love.
Hi! Lady Elena,
Hmmm! Seriously, I'm dumbfounded but can I share this with you?
I'm in love with a girl who is a year and three weeks older than me but I'm one year ahead of her in class but we were mates back then in secondary school and we've been friends for almost 7 years now.
Told her I love her 4 years back but guess we were young then and she was also shy so it didn't work out then. I gave her space and time to think about it and now I'm back but I guess I was 2 months late because she now has a boyfriend.
She still maintains she loves me and I do love her too and I know she is telling the truth but she told me if I can wait for the right time, i should do that because she doesn't want to hurt anyone by breaking up.
What's your advice?
Hi Oga lol.
I'm sorry for delay. Chukwu I have so many comments these days, I can't keep up with them anymore. So, when I log in, I might respond to 10 and leave the rest. I share this with you cos I know you'll understand. :)
Well.... if this lovely lady loves you, she will come back to you. Give it sometime and pray about it too.
Wishing you well. I go fly come Nigeria for your wedding. :)
Lol... That's actually what I've been praying for you
(to get lots of comments so that you'll get busy). Can I help out? *winking*
Yeah! Sure. Why not? I do understand and thanks for deeming it fit to share it with me.
Thanks for your advice. I'll do that and I actually do pray about it everyday.
Thanks thanks. When you go come Nigeria? i.e. before the wedding (lol).
I want us to meet.
I've sent you that mail, so, check it out when you are chanced please.
Cheers Royalmark - I hope to visit this year and will let you know. We could have a drink and Jollof rice in Mr Biggs. :)
Yay! *Jumping in excitement*
I'm waiting for your visit.
Yeah! Sure. Hmm! A drink and a plate of jollof rice each in Mr. Biggs
I pray your homecoming coincides with my book launch (Bank of Deposits).
I am a 42 years lady and I met my 23 years old boy friend through my ex boy friend. it is a beautiful story and I feel the true love. But seems that all the family and friends around me are worried about how long can this relationship last. Until now we are together already 3 years.. .and we are very much in love. I don't know the future, but I know that God bless the true love. I wish all the people that are in love don't care too much about the age difference. Age is just a number, and love can over write the number.
JW - That's lovely to know. I'm glad you proved them wrong and hope your bond grows stronger each day.
Errh... I see Wedding rings in my Crstal ball.... hint hint. :)
Good Luck
marta just turned 20 and i am 44. we love eachother and have the best sex ever.
i love u, cintaku
Errh... Thanks for sharing that Alexander.
Easy Tiger. :)
Very enjoyable read.
Thanks Alladream. :)
All I can say is that age ain't nothing but a number. Love is where you find it. Some people are more mature at different stages in their lives. When I was 16, I found myself being in love with someone who was 12 years older than me. To this day, I still think of him. I learned a lot from that relationship and I carry so many wonderful memories of him. I say that if you find yourself in a relationship where there is a age gap; only you and that person will know if it will work out. Don't throw away a chance at love because of an age difference; you never know how things may work out. You have to have an open mind about the situation.
@Nina
Thanks for sharing your experience and I am also glad you had that opportunity. I totally agree with you that we have to keep an open mind.
Best Wishes
Hi Lady_E,
My husband and I are 8 years almost 9 apart and its unbelievably fantastic and I never thought it could ever be so! With going on 11 years of marriage, everyday gets happier and as you said, truly blessed. We are the two people who both of us never saw ourselves with and which we could not imagine being without. 7 days a week working together, never been apart since the day we met. So true of a story it is. Thanks for an inspiring hub. Its inspiring to me because I so much relate to it. Cheers!
Hello Lanealanea
Thanks for sharing your beautiful story. You are a lucky lady and he is a very, very lucky man. :)
Wishing you lots more happiness - Have a Fab Xmas together. Regards, Elena.
had to come back for a re-read - good info :-)
Hi Neil
I read your first comment of 10 months ago again. I hope you have found love now - if Not, I'm sure it's near.
Good Luck.
I like this hub. Thanks =D
Thanks Silent Hurricane,
I'm glad you enjoyed it. :)
Hi Ma'am Lady_E
I just read everything about the some successful marriages between having a big age differences.... and I am happy and very proud to say that I am very much in love with my partner Rudy, even we have 36 years of age difference, we both can feel that we are feel true love.... and we are both happy just being together...
Its amazing that even we have different cultures we still see that we are very much compatible to each other.
In my part as a woman... I know I can't let everybody believe that I really love this man and I am not after on any material of financial benefits that he may give... and even my family at first they disapprove on it but later on they accept it, knowing and seeing me very much happy with him...
all I want and need from him is his loving touch and wonderful heart...
I love him so very very much, actually there is no words can fit or defined how much I love him... and same with him.... everyday is like a first time we been together... always excited to be with each others arms... and share everything with him....
and I am very much proud to say, I love this man, he is my soul mate, my best friend, my partner, my lover, he is the most wonderful man this world....he is My RUDY.
thank you ma'am Lady_E for letting other people share their stories or comments here in Hub.... by the way if you are curious about my age and my partners age, I am 29 and he is 64 going to 65.
Hi Mellanie
Thanks for sharing your beautiful story. I enjoyed reading it and wish you both continued success.
Regards, Elena.
For my ripe ole age of 36 I would certainly consider a rendezvous of sorts with a younger man. Hopefully by the time I hit my mid forties I may even have a few under the belt lol, hell why not-but to marry a younger man well idk boutdat..seems an older woman keeping a younger man as a husband despite love is harder and even more devastating if he was of close age. EX Whitney & Bobby (devastating), Eva Longoria & Tony Parker, poor Demi & Ashton, I'd rather be like Madonna play with them and then send them all home.
Lol @LotusFlowerbomb
I enjoyed reading your comment. So nice of you to stop by.
Enjoy the weekend. :)
my partner is 20yrs older than me , me being 25 and him 45yrs i love him so deeply , the only thing i find hard is when we are out and about i can see people looking at us and it hurts me to think they stare as if we just escaped some freak show , , people can be so judgemental in this day and age x x hope it gets easier x
Hi Jen, thanks for sharing your experience. I hope it gets easier too. It will - as you grow older. Also, 45 isn't old. Many still look very attractive at that age, so I don't know why people stare.
Keep happy. :)
Aw thanks , ,
yeah he so gorgeous we connect so much , , i think maybe it might be my insecurity sometimes but it thank god everyday that i met someone who i love deeply.
Love will always find a way.
Omnia Vincit Amor
Cheers Jen. :-)
Im 29 going to 30 I been dating my boyfriend for 4years, he is 48 for some reason I been having second thoughts of being with him, I'm not sure if I truly love him like I did before, I know that I'm concern of his age and I'm scared that he is getting older that I wonder if I'm going to make it with him I am really confuse I want to let go but at the same time im scared that I won't find wonderful loving man like him, for some reason it is really painful for me I been feeling sad and deppress for the pass month just to know what to do, I'm scared to lose him and at the end to realize that it was just a face that I was going trough, i donot want to cause him more pain , like I told him, he deserves to be happy, but he is still waiting to see what happens between us. What should I do? I need an advice
Hi Tita
My advice is to follow your heart. Where there is True love, there is no fear. That much I know.
I really wish you well and thanks for reading.
Take Care, Elena.
There is not anything wrong with marrying a younger or older person if it is based on mutual love. What happens, for example, if an older man is experiencing a mid-life crisis and wakes up one day to realize that he has married his granddaughter's school mate? What happens when he is too old to be what that young girl wants and needs? What happens if she gets bored and wants them to spend more time with younger people and he may not feel up to it or comfortable? Many of the old people are experiencing a crisis and feel that they can recapture their youth by dating or marrying a young person. Love is love, but a young person needs to make sure that he or she is not about to inherit the job of a sitter, a pile of attends, or a geriatric chair. This is not to be disrespectful, but some of these age differences are not fair to many of these unsuspecting young people who could posibly be widowed in a few years.
There are certainly advantages (written above) and disadvantages of marrying someone who is significantly older or younger.
a few possible advantages that may be seen in an older person:
maturity
experience
settled
financial comfort
debt-free home
less likely to cheat, maybe
@Levertis
Thanks. I enjoyed reading your comments, particularly the advantages of being with an older person. Excellent points.
Best Wishes.
Absolutely love this article.
I am currently in a relationship with a guy 19 years older than me, I am 36, he is 55. We have known each other for 5 years and he has recently helped me through some very difficult times.
I have never felt so loved and cared for. He has opened my eyes to a different type of partner for the first time in my life.
We are best friends ultimately which is a big help.
I don't think there should be any hard and fast rules dictated to us by society regarding who we choose to spend our lives with. People are too quick to judge and draw conclusions based on their own preferences.
The most annoying thing for me is the sometimes not so subtle looks and remarks people make when we are out and about together. I do look a little younger than 36, my partner is greying, so it makes the gap look more than it is.
I would have never imagined I could be so happy and hope that I can continue to be so for at least the next 20 years of my life!!
A couple more advantage of marrying an older man, especially:
1. wisdom - smart and learned enough to not make
mistakes that younger guys make
2. careful, gentle, and loving
Hey! An old guy may be all right! I am married to one,
but he is slightly younger than I. :D
@Cakes
You are so so lucky and I am pleased for you. Just ignore the "looks" you get. It's your happiness that counts and when new friends get to meet you both, they will love and understand you. Wishing you lots of wonderful Anniversaries.
Thanks for sharing your story. Regards, Elena.
Thank you. I am a very lucky lady!! I have taken your advice and am ignoring those looks!
I hope you continue to get more comments on this very interesting hub x
Thanks Lady_E for this inspiring hub. Im i a relationship with a man i met in Facebook who is 20 yrs older than i am. im at my 20's and he's on 40's now. I know im just a young adult but still, we both love each other..
@Kresge
Thanks for sharing your story. I'm happy for you. Let me know when it's time for me to buy a wedding hat..... :-)
samboiam 2 years ago
I told my wife when she turned forty I was going to trade her in for two twenties. She told me I wasn't wired for 220.
Great hub enjoyed reading it.