Why should Kids call the Police on Parents?
851) Reality
People might not agree with me, but I shake my head in disgust at situations whereby kids/Teens call the police on their parents. The end result is usually:
a)The parent gets arrested and top of that has a Criminal Record.
b) The Child is taken from the parent and placed in Foster Care.
c) The Child grows up to never find their feet in life. If a child has no solid foundation, they will always have issues in life - Never settled.
….. and 9 times out of 10. It’s because of an argument or because the parent lightly hit the child.
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2) Result.
Parents are not at liberty to discipline their own kids as they want. They are afraid to discipline them, for fear of the authorities.
“Spare the rod, spoil the child”.
I have heard some Teens call their mum "a stupid cow" or "Mum don't be stupid". Some teen boys rain obscene language on their parents. Would you blame the parent if they slapped them lightly?
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3) Remedy
I personally think, if a child feels unsafe with their parents, they can talk to someone on maybe a “child/teen support line”. Teens are hormonal.. maybe after the talk they would realise they were in the wrong and could be encouraged to go and speak calmly to their parents… maybe even apologise. If it’s a serious situation where the parent had done wrong, then they (child line) could report it to the police. That way it’s justified - parents are not arrested and given a criminal record for putting their kids in line.
In UK, many children are taken from their parents and put in foster care unnecessarily and this is not the right way for a kid to start life. Some move from one foster home to another. Not all Foster homes are conducive. Some end up on the streets, mingling with the wrong crowd and for some it’s the beginning of a life of drugs and alcohol.
Most parents want the best for their kids and to achieve that, there has to be discipline. (Ofcourse, discipline dosen't always have to be physical...)
If you are a Teen reading this, please think thrice before calling the Police on your Mother or Father because of a heated argument.
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..... and what is this I hear about Kids divorcing their parents? I guess that will be for another article. ◦•¸♥¸•◦
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Quotes – Food for Thought…
~ "Happy laughter and family voices in the home will keep more kids off the streets at night than the strictest curfew." ~ Unknown
~ "Too many of today's children have straight teeth and crooked morals."~ – unknown
~ "The school will teach children how to read, but the environment of the home must teach them what to read. The school can teach them how to think, but the home must teach them what to believe." ~ Charles A. Wells
~ "The quickest way for a parent to get a child's attention is to sit down and look comfortable." ~ Lane Olinhouse
~ "The troubles of adolescence eventually all go away - it's just like a really long, bad cold." ~Dawn Ruelas
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Thought-provoking topic. I agree with you--a little well-meaing discipline is necessary to raise respectful kids. Love your quotes--so true and wise, they should be prominnetly displaced on the fridge. Rated up.
Hi Lady_E! Great hub! The problem in the US is police officers are so different so you might run into one that would not even deal with this matter because they understand and then another might treat it as a federal case.
My kids once joked that they would call the police on us if we disciplined them. I told them that it would be the last call they would ever make. No more comments like that from them!
Sometimes parents want to be their kids' friend and when it is time to lower the hammer, the kids fight back. Parents have to instill respect and discipline in their children consistently from the beginning. My parents are in their 70's and I am still afraid of them!!
It's probably because I am raising teens right now but wow, are kids mouthy these days. I suppose I was too but it seems almost accepted now when I am in public. Teens calling mom names etc...Kids need to know WE are in charge although lately I don't even feel that way. Great hub and I hit lots of buttons:)
Lady_E - Thanks for the enlightenment. Unfortunately, in my part of the world (Nigeria), it is unAfrican for a child to challenge his parents let alone call the police.
** JS Paker - It happens a lot in UK. Thanks so much for stopping.
** Anglnwu - Thanks. :) I'm glad you like the Quotes. Best Wishes.
** Dexter - Thanks for sharing such wise words. I liked what you wrote: "Parents have to instill respect and discipline in their children consistently from the beginning." Glad you stopped by.
** MinneTonka - Good luck with raising your Teens. May they be a success in life and pillars of society, as you raise them to know true values. Best Wishes.
** Philipo - Don't I know it. They will be shown the "koboko". lol.
Elena, I agree with you, too many times the child is only acting out, but the damage is done. It's like a parent is afraid to discipline a child. I once heard a Mother say that a bruise on her child would probably bring in the Socils Service to investigate. Where do you draw the line? Sometimes a bruise indicates abuse. Thank you.
Your comment, "Parents are not at liberty to discipline their own kids as they want. They are afraid to discipline them, for fear of the authorities", is the reason we have problems with kids today. Children must know and feel they are loved unconditionally.
Cheers x
Excellent hub and I enjoyed all the comments! Dexter Yarbrough was funny in his comment when he told his kids that was the last call they would ever make, LOL! My parents told me and my sisters the same thing and now that I am older and wiser I appreciate it very much. Their disciplining which included being physical at times kept us out of trouble and at peace for the most part. I use the same teaching with my daughter, spare the rod spoil the child, I turned out wonderful and my daughter is wonderful as well.
Hello Lady E, superb hub as ever, you never fail to surprise me with your writing talent.
Disciplining children seems to change with every new generation of parent doing things slightly different. I remember how my parents disciplined me and i try to carry on that with my kids but i also do my own thing aswell, whether it works or not i will have to wait and see.
Wheteher or not a child should call the cops is a hard one to decide on because sometimes parents can be very cruel to their kids whilst at other times kids wrongly think that they are being treated unfairly.
Im afraid i will have to sit on the fence with this one.
Thank you for yet another great article, i wish i had an ounce of your talent.
Lady_E: When I was a kid if I spoke back to my parents I wouldn't be able to sit down after receiving a good spanking for a day or so.
If I used foul language, the taste of a bar of soap would linger in my mouth for days. I knew I was the kid and mom and dad made the rules and those rules were never or seldom challenged. Week nights,school nights you did your homework, did your studies, maybe watched a little TV with mom and dad and you were in bed by 9 pm., unless you had a really good reason for being up latter than that, or a special situation. No kid was ever permitted outside after supper hour unless it was summer with no school.
If we were truant and skipped school, there were special truant police officers and when they found us, we and our parents were dragged into the local police station and then to the principal's office. In most cases once was enough for most kids, because you received two punishments, one from the principal and one from mom and dad.
There were also time curfews imposed upon all kids under the age of 16 years of age. If the police spotted a kid on the streets after 10 pm.,they were picked up and taken home to their parents and both the kid and the parent got it from the cops.
With today's most stupid laws, kids get away with anything and everything, and if a parent tries to control the kid, the kid calls the cops and the parents are the ones in trouble. The police are sick and tired of having to respond to such cases but their hands are tied until parents take back their rites to be parents.
A very good hub. God Bless you Dear Heart.
** Hi Ruby - Interesting point - where do we draw the line? Mmmmmh.... Glad you stopped by.
** Hello Nancy's Niche - I have to agree with you on that one. I know of some Africans who have wayward teens and because of the system here, decided to take them back to Africa so they don't turn out worse. Even the education system ties the hands of Teachers. (Not that we would hit kids but we can't really discipline them).
Ah well..... lovely to read from you.
** Thanks Ladyt11 - for sharing your experience with us. What a lovely story. Best Wishes.
Hi Paul - I understand what you mean. I was just thinking of "Baby P" that was all over the news a while ago. I am aware that there are many parents who get into trouble with the system though... Nice of you to stop by and thanks for your encouraging words.
I wish I had an ounce of your talent too. I took some photo's last month - when they came out it turned out my hands shook on all of them. lol
** Dave Matthews - Wow.... thanks for sharing that and I'm sure it did you a world of good. You reminded me of my Dad, who was (still is) so loving but made it perfectly clear I was to be home before 9pm as a Teen.
Decades later, I feel very uncomfortable being out at 11pm unless I am with a friend and it's kept me out of sticky situations. (by Gods Grace).
I like how you ended the last paragraph. I guess it takes a lot of Wisdom to get round the authorities these days. Thanks so much for sharing your experience. I hope some Teens read it. :)
** Stars439 - Thanks for stopping.
God Bless you too.
Unfortunately, in our society today, Parents need to call the Police on their children! I imagine most parents would do this.
I pray for our children - they need love, attention and a good spanking!
Thanks for sharing this article LadyE- it is helpful!
Nice information from you, my friend. I never find kind of this case in my country. But I learn much from you about what happen with kids outside. As a teacher, I am so sad to know how the kids in bad situation, they don't know with whom they must talk when the bullied or in danger situation even this come from their own parents. I hope everything under control. Thank you very much for writing this and share with us. Rated up. Have a nice weekend!
Prasetio
** Thanks Treasures of Heaven - I say "Amen" to your prayer. Best Wishes.
** Hello Prasetio - I am glad it doesn't happen in your country and I'm sure as a result, kids there are well-grounded. Thanks so much for stopping.
Wow I never knew this could actually happen in real life I mean why would a teen or kid want to put their own real parents in jail I mean thats just sad your own parents gaved you life when you were born and they are the ones who only want what is best for you so you can have a better life that just does not make sense to me at all. Thanks for the article.
Excellent article on a very emotive subject.
A great book to read is "how to behave so your children do to"
For me the thing about smacking is why the parent is doing it. If it is controled and part of a wider discipline strategy which has both negative and positive elements then that's ok. However if a parent is hitting a child out of anger or worse revenge then there is no place for it in my opinion.
That said I do agree that unless real violence has been involved (and I suppose that is difficult to measure) then the police should but out and then the parents get on with raising their children to know the difference between right and wrong.
I wrote a piece on my blog last week about corporal punishment in schools and would be interested to know peoples thoughts on that issue.
** Hi Spotlight - it is happening but mostly in the Western World. I have never heard of it in Africa and Asia. Nice to see you here. :)
** Be Strong Life Coaching - Thanks for sharing your thoughts and for details of your book. Best wishes.
Spot on, Lady_E! The same things happen here in the US, with kids calling the cops on their parents for merely yelling or putting them back in line a bit. It's pathetic...I truly hope my daughter doesn't try to pull that crap with me when she's older! And the foster care thing...is not a good solution. Kids that go into foster care over here in the US tend to turn out the same way. Drugs, alcohol, mentally messed up in a lot of cases. Kids should respect their parents and only call the cops when it is absolutely warranted (true physical abuse). Thanks for this wonderful and honest hub.
I think you're right! My brother and I were raised very differently, or so it seems. I got slapped if I did anything wrong, and rightly so. I called her a cow once and was grounded for a week!
But my brother has never ever been grounded. He can get away with murder! It's so annoying to see because, instead my parents just spoil him rotten! The same goes for my sister. She's been so spoilt for her entire life sometimes I sit and wonder "Are you really related to me?" It might sound horrible, but I could never steal, lie and cheat. Why can she?
It'll bite them on the ass later in life though when it comes back round because, as far as I can tell, people who have been spoilt as children tend to be much less mature when they grow up!
And another thing - children need their parents, they need to be able to observe how they are and what they do. Even if it is just so they can do something differently when they have kids!
It seems to have become such a social "no-no" to punish kids now, and it's a real shame, it'd certainly stop this wave of 14 year old kids straying around my village, generally being annoying and stupid.
Also, can we ban anybody under the age of 18 using fake tan? Just a little side note!
** Thanks for that Kitty - Totally agree with you. I'm sure many of them regret it later. Thanks for stopping.
** Hi Ryan, thanks for sharing your thoughts and I like that sentence - I quote "you I can tell, people who have been spoilt as children tend to be much less mature when they grow up!"
Sadly, they take that immature attitude into relationships and it affects them negatively in life.
I'm glad you stopped by.
Ps. There is now law banning under 18s from using fake tans, however some schools might not allow it. :)
Lady_E
Powerful topic!
I agree that a child must have boundaries and a proper concept of authority as they are growing up. Although there is no room for physical abuse I am totally in agreement with your previously mentioned Bible verse and also one other:
He who keeps back his rod is unkind to his son: the loving father gives punishment with care. Proverbs 13:24
Train up a child in the way he should go; and when he is old, he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6.
So my point of view here is based on, as is my parents, believing that the wisdom of God is critical in understanding how to be a good parent and raise children properly.
Spanking a child with your open hand, wooden spoon, or even a light belt on their bottom in a controlled measured way was how we were raised. It was never done in a rage or laced with abusive words. In fact it was very calculated, short and specific. Five to ten hits, the lesser if you stood still and the latter if you tried to block it or wiggle free. .
Also in our case, of the dozen times or so this occurred we were always told why and that we were being disciplined because mommy and daddy loved us. Before and after we were always told we were loved and good children, it was just our actions, which were coming under penalty.
I’m certain the non abusive but sure and measure consequence after being pleaded with to stop disobeying was instrumental in my concept of the rule of law. That and in addition my military service as well.
Unfortunately, many children may suffer from their parents “ discipline “ in a more uncontrolled, or even brutal manner of which defeats the entire purpose. We need to provide a way for parents to be supported in disciplining their children in the right way.
I strongly feel that proper discipline, when necessary, in the home is the cornerstone for raising happy, healthy, and respectful children.
If we get to a point where all parents who discipline their children are labeled abusive we do a great disservice. We risk the chance of that as children get into the courts, foster care the governmental family care systems the odds are stacked against them. It becomes increasingly improbably they will grow into healthy, law abiding and positive adults in society.
My two cents worth :-)
StayPos!
Hello StayPos
Thanks so much for sharing your views and the bible references. I can see, it's an issue close to your heart. I totally agree with you.
It's also interesting how later when kids become adults, they appreciate the discipline they got off parents. I'm sure even in the Bible it says something like: God Chastens those He Loves.
Many Thanks.
GREAT HUB Lady_E! Some of these kids get away with murder! Talking back and even hiting their parents! I am old school and I do believe in spankings! lol. I have missed you!!! Bless you!
Thanks DrPastorCarlotta for your comment. Even Christian parents find it challenging to discipline their kids these days.
Good to see you again. x
It is such a messed up world we live in. I am not a parent yet so would only guess that discipline not implemented at an early age would lead to cases where children rebel-not to say all cases, but still to have a child disrespect their parents to the point of calling the police on them seems to indicate a deep rooted problem from possible abuse by the parent or a simply disrespectful unguided child.
Cheers Alladream - Thanks for your comments. I think many are unguided and I blame society. Did you read about the new act in June 2011? It's no longer an offence to swear at a Police Officer in London. They are not to arrest people because they verbally abused police.
Thanks for stopping.
JSParker Level 3 Commenter 11 months ago
Wow. I had no idea. I guess I've heard of one or two cases in the U.S. in the past few years of something like this. But maybe such arrests don't always make the national news. A lot of kids are taken from their parents and put in foster care? And the parents are arrested? Really? Things sure have changed!